A fellow mom recently asked for potty training advice on our local Down syndrome association's Facebook page. As I was gathering some info to send to her, I checked here and realized I never really shared what worked for Caleb. I followed basically the same plan for Tyler, and both boys did great.
It's been eleven months since I started potty training Caleb. He is pretty much "potty trained". He never wears a pull-up, even at night! He rarely has an accident... maybe just 2-3 each week. When he does have an accident, it's usually poop.
I started potty training Tyler almost nine months ago. He still wears a pull-up at night, but he's in undies during the day. He occasionally has an accident if he's busy playing and forgets to go. His accidents are usually just urine. He's great about hurrying to the bathroom if he needs to poop.
Here are a few of my favorite potty training tools...
Gerber Training Underwear
Flushable wipes - we've tried several brands, and these are my favorite
Travel potty seat
Potty seat - for use at home
Potty - for use at home. I even put it in my car for long road trips. There isn't always a convenience store or rest stop when the boys need to go, so we sometimes pull of on the side of the road and let them use this. Put a dry diaper or pull-up down in the bottom, and it'll contain the mess for you. You can then dispose of it at your next stop!
Below are some notes I typed for a friend when we were still in the thick of things. She wanted to know exactly what we were doing, because she was getting ready to potty train her daughter who has Down syndrome. I'm by no means a potty training expert, but I hope you find it helpful!
Day One
Caleb wore only training underwear (not pull-ups). I let him drink lots of liquids (water, lemonade, pedialyte) and planned to take him to the potty every 10 minutes. I didn't let him get up until he used the potty, so I let him look at books, we'd sing songs, etc... anything to pass the time.
When the fluids were really going through his body, he sometimes had accidents before the 10 minutes was up. When he had accidents, I took him to the bathroom and told him to try to use the potty the next time and changed his underwear. I didn't make a big deal out of the accidents.
As the day went on (and he got tired of drinking so much!), I noticed that he was sitting on the potty for several minutes before needing to go. I increased the time off of the potty to 15 minutes.
At nap time, I put a pull-up on him... and enjoyed a much needed break! When he woke up from his nap, the underwear went back on. He didn't get a pull-up again until bedtime.
Every time Caleb pottied, he got a star sticker to put on a reward chart that I printed out for him. After several star stickers, he earned a dinosaur sticker. And if things were going really well or if I felt like he needed a little extra motivation, he earned a little plastic dinosaur toy. I bought a bunch of dinosaurs on Amazon for less than $1/each and hid them in a bathroom cabinet.
Day Two
We started with 10 minute intervals (because he drank a lot of milk with breakfast that morning). We then moved to 15 minute intervals and, by the end of the day, 20 minute intervals. I didn't push fluids quite as much on day two.
By the end of day 2, he was over the stickers. I still put them on the chart, just so that I could continue measuring his progress. He was aware of when he was going, and he didn't seem to care about earning any sort of reward. Praising him for a good job seemed to be enough for him.
Day Three
We ventured out of the house that morning and faced our first public bathroom experience. Caleb was terrified of having to use a public restroom toilet. I felt so bad for him! I switched him to a pull-up and decided it wasn't worth either of us getting stressed out. When we got back home, the underwear went back on and I took him to the potty every 15-20 minutes. Caleb had a family birthday party that evening, and I put a pull-up on him then too... so that we could all enjoy the party.
Day Four
Sunday... I was so worried about how things would go at church. We're there for about four hours, and he has three sets of teachers during that time. I decided to send him in pull-ups and asked his teachers to take him to the potty every 30 minutes. He was willing to sit on the kid-size potty, but he wouldn't use the restroom. When we got home, we switched back to underwear and took him every 20 minutes for the rest of the day.
Day Five
My parents watched the boys while I was at work. My mom was willing to continue with the potty-training. She trained three kids, so I figured she could handle it. I didn't give her much instruction. By the time I got home that afternoon, she said he was going to the bathroom every 30-45 minutes and had only had a couple accidents. 45 minutes?!... I was so excited! I continued that through the evening, and he did great!
Day Six
First day back at school after fall break. I emailed his teacher the evening before to let her know how things were going and to see what they wanted to do at school. She said to send him in underwear, and they'd take him every 15-20 minutes. I told her that he could probably go longer than 15-20, but I'd let them do whatever worked best for them there.
When I picked him up, I was thrilled to hear that he pottied in the toilets at school and had no accidents!
Since then...
He is continuing to wear pull-ups for naps and overnight. As soon as he wakes up in the morning, we take him to the potty and then he puts on underwear. I take him to the bathroom every 30-45 minutes when we're home. He has been able to go hour-long stretches at times, but I really prefer to keep it to 30-45 minutes. He rarely has pee accidents now. He is not consistently pooping in the potty yet, but we're continuing to work on that.
He has has several nights and naps when we has woken up with a dry pull-up. We've also have had a few nights where he woke up during the night and cried for me. I got up and took him to the potty, and then he went right back to bed. I think we'll stick with the pull-ups at nap for several more weeks and probably longer for overnight.