We arrived at Childrens Medical Center at 7:30am today for a full day of pre-op activities. We started at the cardiology clinic with a sedated echocardiogram and an EKG. We were then sent downstairs to the outpatient lab. Caleb has always been stingy with giving blood, so I warned the tech. Caleb gave a little blood from his right arm and nothing from his left. I told the tech that we've had luck in the past getting blood from a vein in his foot, but she didn't feel comfortable trying that. We went back to the cardiology clinic and waited for someone from the hospital's IV team. She got the blood from his foot. Mama knows best!
We then met with the surgeon's NP and a NP from the cardiovascular intensive care unit (CVICU). They explained tomorrow's procedure. Leading up to all of this, I read all about the surgery online, watched Youtube videos of similar surgeries, and met with Caleb's surgeon. But none of that prepared me for hearing all the details of the surgery while staring at my precious boy and realizing that this is really happening tomorrow. Thank goodness there was a box of tissues in the room. I'm honestly not anxious or scared about the surgery, but it's still hard to hear about my son's chest being opened up and about all the tubes/wires he'll have in his perfect little body. I do know that Caleb is in good hands. More people than I even know in Oklahoma, Texas, and around the world (even Canada, Bahrain, & Belarus... according to the blog traffic stats!) are thinking and praying for our little man. This kid is loved and being prayed over by so many. Thank you all!
So anyway, I dried my tears and the day continued. The surgeon came to talk with us briefly, and then we took a lunch break at about 1:30. After a surprisingly good lunch in the hospital food court, we returned to the cardiology clinic for one last exam and pre-op instructions. His labs were back, and his thyroid levels were at a level that the medical team almost considered postponing surgery. After all the parties involved discussed Caleb's case, they decided to continue with surgery as scheduled. Good deal! I think there would have been even more tears if the surgery had been postponed at that point!
We finished off the day with a tour of the CVICU and cardiac floor, and then Caleb had to get a couple chest X-rays done. We left the hospital at about 4:45. Long day!
Once we got settled into the hotel, I hit the gym for a quick run on the treadmill and some cardio on the elliptical. Our parents arrived shortly thereafter. We have spent the evening visiting, watching the Thunder game, and snacking on all the wonderful food that our moms brought. It's a good thing I worked out earlier!
We have to be at the hospital at 6:00am Friday morning, and Caleb's surgery is scheduled for 7:30am. It should take 4-6 hours. Check back tomorrow for updates! And thanks again for all the prayers!
Thursday, January 31, 2013
Wednesday, January 30, 2013
Three month photos
Tammy Hall took Caleb's three month photos on Saturday. I love the photos of him wearing the crocheted beanie.
Two more days
Brad, Caleb and I are heading to Dallas this afternoon. Caleb has a full day of pre-op activities tomorrow, and then the surgery is scheduled for 7:30am on Friday. We've been told that the surgery should take about four hours.
Brad and I ask for your prayers as we prepare for Caleb's surgery. Please pray for Caleb's surgeon and his team. And please pray for travel safety for us and our family. As I mentioned, we will be going to Dallas later today. Our families are driving on Thursday and Friday.
My plan is to post periodic updates here, so check back for any new news. If you're on Twitter, you can follow Brad (BJohnson_72), me (SJohnson8108), and/or check #CalebDrew.
If you want to know more about Caleb's heart defect, check out the following websites. They can probably answer your questions better than me. But, of course, feel free to post any questions in the comments below. I'll do my best to answer them!
Stanford - AV Canal info
http://www.lpch.org/DiseaseHealthInfo/HealthLibrary/cardiac/avc.html
Cincinnati Childrens - AV Canal info
http://www.cincinnatichildrens.org/health/a/avsd/
Thanks so much for all the thoughts, prayers, and support. When Caleb was born three months and four days ago, we were told this surgery would happen in 3-6 months. It's hard to believe the time has finally come. We're thankful that the surgery is happening closer to the three month mark, rather than the six month mark. We're ready to get it behind us and move forward.
Brad and I ask for your prayers as we prepare for Caleb's surgery. Please pray for Caleb's surgeon and his team. And please pray for travel safety for us and our family. As I mentioned, we will be going to Dallas later today. Our families are driving on Thursday and Friday.
My plan is to post periodic updates here, so check back for any new news. If you're on Twitter, you can follow Brad (BJohnson_72), me (SJohnson8108), and/or check #CalebDrew.
If you want to know more about Caleb's heart defect, check out the following websites. They can probably answer your questions better than me. But, of course, feel free to post any questions in the comments below. I'll do my best to answer them!
Stanford - AV Canal info
http://www.lpch.org/DiseaseHealthInfo/HealthLibrary/cardiac/avc.html
Cincinnati Childrens - AV Canal info
http://www.cincinnatichildrens.org/health/a/avsd/
Thanks so much for all the thoughts, prayers, and support. When Caleb was born three months and four days ago, we were told this surgery would happen in 3-6 months. It's hard to believe the time has finally come. We're thankful that the surgery is happening closer to the three month mark, rather than the six month mark. We're ready to get it behind us and move forward.
Monday, January 28, 2013
Three month recap
Caleb celebrated his three month "birthday" on Saturday, Jan 26th.
Weight: 10lbs 10.5oz
Length: 22"
Clothing size: 0-3 months
Diaper size: size 1
Eating: Caleb takes 3oz of breast milk with one scoop of Similac formula, seven times per day. He takes anywhere from 10mL to 90mL from a bottle, and we give him the rest through his NG tube. We'll be glad when surgery is over, and we can be done with the tube.
Sleeping: Caleb sleeps 4 hour stretches at night, and we have to wake him to eat. He sleeps in his Rock & Play Sleeper in our room. He naps 30-60 minutes at a time throughout the day.
Highlight of the month: Caleb rolled over for the first time on Dec 31st! He has rolled over several times since then. Caleb is "talking" so much now! He and his friend, Peyton, carried on a long conversation a couple weeks ago. He "says" things that sound like "yeah", "oh", and "what".
Weight: 10lbs 10.5oz
Length: 22"
Clothing size: 0-3 months
Diaper size: size 1
Eating: Caleb takes 3oz of breast milk with one scoop of Similac formula, seven times per day. He takes anywhere from 10mL to 90mL from a bottle, and we give him the rest through his NG tube. We'll be glad when surgery is over, and we can be done with the tube.
Sleeping: Caleb sleeps 4 hour stretches at night, and we have to wake him to eat. He sleeps in his Rock & Play Sleeper in our room. He naps 30-60 minutes at a time throughout the day.
Highlight of the month: Caleb rolled over for the first time on Dec 31st! He has rolled over several times since then. Caleb is "talking" so much now! He and his friend, Peyton, carried on a long conversation a couple weeks ago. He "says" things that sound like "yeah", "oh", and "what".
Friday, January 25, 2013
Genetics Lottery
This is Brad. I'll be guest posting from time to time and this is my first. Sorry I'm getting started with such a long post.
The last 3 months has
been an amazing roller coaster of emotions.
Thursday was a good day. I’ll
explain in a minute, but first some background…
One of the many questions
(and trust me there were many questions) we asked the neonatologist after he explained
that he was “suspicious” of Down syndrome in Caleb was “What does this mean for
our future of having additional children?”
He explained to us that most likely Caleb received an extra 21st
chromosome spontaneously upon his conception, but there was also a chance that
the extra material was inherited (implying a higher probability of a future
child being born with Down syndrome as well).
Caleb had a FISH
test done while in the NICU and that test confirmed the doctor’s suspicions
that Caleb had 3 copies of the 21st chromosome. However, the detailed karyotype
test would take weeks to produce results.
In the weeks after his
birth we learned a lot about Down syndrome.
One thing that we learned is that Down syndrome occurs in one out of
every 700-1000 live births (statistics starting… more on this later). We also learned that the only known factor
that significantly increases a couples odds of having a child with Down
syndrome is advanced maternal age. Another thing that we learned is that the
karyotype test would tell us which of the three types of Down syndrome Caleb
had (we knew he didn’t have Mosaic based on the FISH test as all not a portion
of his tested cells reported 3 copies of the 21st chromosome). For Caleb it really doesn’t matter, but it
could for future kids. The three types
are:
o
Trisomy
21 (or nondisjunction) – Nondisjunction results in an embryo with three
copies of chromosome 21 instead of the usual two. Prior to or at conception, a
pair of 21st chromosomes in either the sperm or the egg fails to separate
resulting in the baby receiving three copies of the 21st chromosome. The three 21st chromosomes each
stand independently. As the embryo develops, the extra chromosome
is replicated in every cell of the body. This type of Down syndrome, which
accounts for 95% of cases, is called trisomy 21. It is never inherited. It just happens.
o
Mosaic
(or mosaicism) – Mosaicism occurs when nondisjunction of chromosome 21
takes place in only a portion of the cells in the body. When this occurs, some cells contain the usual
46 chromosomes and others contain 47. Those
cells with 47 chromosomes contain an extra chromosome 21. Mosaicism accounts for about 1% of all cases
of Down syndrome. It is believed that
people with this form of Down syndrome can achieve a higher level of function
and/or have less visible features, but that is largely unproven. This again is never inherited.
o
Translocation
- Translocation accounts for about 4% of all cases of Down syndrome. In translocation Down Syndrome there are three
copies of chromosome 21, just like in trisomy 21, but one of the chromosome 21’s
is attached to another chromosome, instead of being separate. The
extra chromosome 21 is frequently attached to a copy of the chromosome 13 or 14,
but sometimes it can be attached to 15, 22 or in some rarer cases, two #21
chromosomes can be attached to each other. The main point of a translocation is that the
total number of chromosomes in the cells remains 46. It just happens that one of the 46 is a combo
of sorts and has a little extra chromosome 21 tagging along. The presence of an extra part of chromosome 21
causes the characteristics of Down syndrome.
Because of its nature, this form of Down syndrome can be inherited if
either parent is a balanced carrier
of the translocation. However, the
translocation can also be “de novo” (or “occurring first in the child”). I can’t find any reliable stats on how
frequently translocation is inherited and how frequently it is “de novo”.
After Caleb came home, we
began reading online that there is a 1/100 chance of additional children being
born with Down syndrome, unless it was an inherited translocation. This made no sense to me, as a numbers
guy. If any event is spontaneous and
unique, how could it be more likely to occur again next time? I mean…flip a coin. 50/50 shot for heads right? So you get heads… still a 50/50 chance for
heads on the second flip, right? When we
later met with a genetics counselor, I asked this question and I found that
there is no real scientific reason for the increased risk nor a solid reason
for how much the risk is increased by.
The increased risk simply accounts for the fact that something didn’t go
right the first time and we don’t know why.
An implied inherent risk if you will.
Added simply because there could be something that we don’t understand working
behind all of this. Any auditor friends
out there probably understand this idea of implied risk or inherent risk. For example:
Maybe that coin has something wrong with it that we can’t see that
predisposes it to land on heads… probably not, but maybe… All of this to say that the risk is “probably
no higher next time, but maybe it is… so it’s accepted to just say 1%…”
We also read that if the
child has a translocation then either parent could be a balanced translocation
carrier and in that circumstance, the chromosome abnormality was
inherited. In that case, the odds
increased to 10-15% if the mother is the carrier and 3-5% if the father is the
carrier. Nice statistics, but as we
would later learn, not universally true for all translocations. There are more variables in play that make it
a little more complex.
So back to our
story… Steph and I asked a lot of
doctors what the odds of a family with two children with Down syndrome were and
the general consensus was that the odds are very small. This was reassuring. It seemed that most people assumed that Caleb
had the most common form: Trisomy 21.
And so did we. Until two weeks
ago when we Caleb’s karyotype came back and we learned that Caleb has a
translocation. Beating the statistical
odds again… The genetics counselor told
us the findings were “rather significant” and we should come back in to discuss
and also have a karyotype test done on each of us.
When we visited with the
genetics counselor, he told us that Caleb did not even have the typical
translocation, but rather he had the more rare version in which that extra 21st
chromosome is attached to another chromosome 21. It’s called translocation 21:21. Beating the stats again… Feel like I should
have bought a lottery ticket… So why is
that “rather significant” you ask?
Didn’t you just explain that if you were a carrier that the odds are
3-15% if either mom or dad was a balanced carrier? Well yes… except in this rare case. In this case, the “worst” case if you want
additional kids, if either of us was a carrier the odds are 50% miscarriage and
50% Down syndrome. Ugh. 100% of live births will have Down
syndrome. No if, ands, or buts. Why is this you ask? It’s not that complicated, but it is hard to
explain without pictures. It reminds me
a lot of high school biology. If you
really want to know, ask me and I will draw you a picture. Anyway, 100% is a big number. It’s pretty overwhelming to contemplate the
possibility that you were born with no genetic shot of having a typical
child. It was more overwhelming for me
than the actual diagnosis of Caleb. I
felt like I was stuck in the middle of a bad science fair project and a bad
science fiction novel.
So we did the lab work
and then we waited. We were told that it
was more likely than not that we were not carriers. At this point, I was tired of stats. I wanted facts. It took a long two weeks to get the results,
but Thursday we got the call that neither of us is a carrier. Good news.
Good day. Finally back on the
right side of the stats. Never thought
that I would be so happy to see 1/100 odds (implied inherent risk and all). Now, all of this is no promise we will have
another child or that this next child will be “typical”. That’s my assumption, but I’m learning not to
depend on stats and assumptions… you could always be that one.
So to summarize:
·
1/700 have down syndrome check
·
4% of those have translocation check
·
A fraction of those have translocation 21:21 check
Or look at it this way…
there are about 400,000 people in the United States living with Down
syndrome. About 4% of those, or 16,000,
have a translocation. A fraction of
those 16,000, have translocation 21:21.
Our little Caleb is pretty unique!
We won the genetics
lottery if you will. But we are happy today
that we know that Caleb was the start of the small odds and not either of us.
This lady in Europe does a good job of explaining it too if you want more info.
This lady in Europe does a good job of explaining it too if you want more info.
Caleb's newborn photos
Since Caleb spent his first ten days in the NICU, we had to hold off on having his newborn photos taken until he was home. Tammy Hall took Caleb's photos when he was sixteen days old, and here are some of my favorites.
Two month recap
Two month stats...
Weight: 9lbs 0oz
Length: 21"
Clothing size: newborn
Diaper size: newborn
Eating: Caleb takes 2.5oz of breast milk with half scoop of Similac formula, seven times per day
Sleeping: Caleb sleeps 4 hour stretches at night, and we have to wake him to eat. He sleeps in his Rock & Play Sleeper in our room. His daytime nap schedule is still pretty inconsistent, but he loves to nap on his tummy when we're home.
Highlight of the month: We had a wonderful time celebrating Caleb's first Christmas. He received so many toys, books, and clothes! His first Christmas was also a white Christmas! We took him out in the snow, but he wouldn't even wake up for a photo op!
Weight: 9lbs 0oz
Length: 21"
Clothing size: newborn
Diaper size: newborn
Eating: Caleb takes 2.5oz of breast milk with half scoop of Similac formula, seven times per day
Sleeping: Caleb sleeps 4 hour stretches at night, and we have to wake him to eat. He sleeps in his Rock & Play Sleeper in our room. His daytime nap schedule is still pretty inconsistent, but he loves to nap on his tummy when we're home.
Highlight of the month: We had a wonderful time celebrating Caleb's first Christmas. He received so many toys, books, and clothes! His first Christmas was also a white Christmas! We took him out in the snow, but he wouldn't even wake up for a photo op!
Thursday, January 24, 2013
Weight check
I took Caleb to his cardiologist's office today for a weight check. He weighed 10lbs 10.5oz! It looks like he's well on his way to the 11lb goal we're hoping to get to by surgery time. The surgery is one week from tomorrow!
Wednesday, January 23, 2013
One month recap
Caleb is just a few days from being three months old, so I thought I'd do a couple brief posts to recap his first few months. Here are a few of the highlights and favorite photos from his first month (Oct 26, 2012 thru Nov 26, 2012).
One month stats...
Weight: 7lbs 14oz
Length: 20.5"
Clothing size: newborn
Diaper size: newborn
Eating: Caleb takes 2.5oz of breast milk with half scoop of Similac formula, seven times per day
Sleeping: Caleb sleeps 4-5 hour stretches at night, and we have to wake him to eat. He sleeps in his Rock & Play Sleeper in our room. He does not have a consistent daytime nap schedule, because of all the doctor's appointments. He usually sleeps in the car to/from appointments and takes brief naps during the day when we're at home
Highlight of the month: Caleb was discharged from the NICU and went home for the first time on November 5th.
One month stats...
Weight: 7lbs 14oz
Length: 20.5"
Clothing size: newborn
Diaper size: newborn
Eating: Caleb takes 2.5oz of breast milk with half scoop of Similac formula, seven times per day
Sleeping: Caleb sleeps 4-5 hour stretches at night, and we have to wake him to eat. He sleeps in his Rock & Play Sleeper in our room. He does not have a consistent daytime nap schedule, because of all the doctor's appointments. He usually sleeps in the car to/from appointments and takes brief naps during the day when we're at home
Highlight of the month: Caleb was discharged from the NICU and went home for the first time on November 5th.
Saturday, January 12, 2013
Turbo-feeding
Caleb Drew spent two days at Childrens Hospital. Our main purpose for the stay was to "turbo-feed" him, and that we did! He weighed 9lb, 3oz on Thursday, and he weighed 9lb, 10oz this morning!
We learned how to put a NG tube in. Well... Brad did it. I held Caleb and tried to keep him from screaming too much. If Caleb remembers that Daddy is the one who sticks a tube down his nose, maybe he'll say "Mama" first?!
We also learned how to feed him through the tube. We got really good at using the hospital's pump, but the one we have at home is different. Of course! The one at home seems pretty simple, though.
Here are a few iPhone pics from our hospital stay...
We learned how to put a NG tube in. Well... Brad did it. I held Caleb and tried to keep him from screaming too much. If Caleb remembers that Daddy is the one who sticks a tube down his nose, maybe he'll say "Mama" first?!
We also learned how to feed him through the tube. We got really good at using the hospital's pump, but the one we have at home is different. Of course! The one at home seems pretty simple, though.
Here are a few iPhone pics from our hospital stay...
Friday, January 11, 2013
Tuesday, January 8, 2013
Dallas consult recap and a surgery date!
Brad and I had a great consultation with Caleb's surgeon at Children's Medical Center in Dallas yesterday. He was much more personable than I expected, and we felt very comfortable with him. He explained Caleb's condition, the surgery, and what to expect afterward. He also took plenty of time to answer our questions. One of his nurse practitioners gave us a tour of the cardiac ICU, where Caleb will stay for 2-5 days. We also toured the hospital floor where Caleb will be for an additional 3-5 days. At the hospital, parents are encouraged to "room in". The rooms we saw had a sofa bed, and some also had a reclining chair. Showers and laundry facilities are convenient and available for us to use. I think we'll be pretty comfortable during our stay there.
Caleb's surgery is scheduled for Friday, February 1st. We will go to Dallas on January 30th, and Caleb will have a full day of pre-op activities on January 31st. We were told to expect a 7-10 day hospital stay. We will need to stay in the Dallas area for an additional 2-4 days after Caleb is released. This time will be to simulate the "out of hospital" experience while still being nearby. We'd hate for a complication to occur on our way home to OKC or after we're home. During this time, we will either stay at a hotel or the Ronald McDonald House.
Caleb has been in a bit of a "feeding slump" for the last week or so. This is because his lung pressures are changing, which we know is to be expected and is somewhat of a good thing. The medication he started last week is helping, but we want to do everything we can to make sure Caleb is as strong as possible before surgery. We've decided to admit him to Children's Hospital in OKC on Thursday morning. He will stay in the hospital for 2-4 days, while he is given extra calories through a NG tube. We'll continue feeding him with bottles, but we'll give him additional milk/formula through the tube. Brad and I will learn how to change the tube, so that we can continue using it at home until Caleb's surgery. I'm not so excited about having to change the tube and have been making a mental list of all the PAs and nurses I know who I could possibly recruit for that task! The cardiology PA said she is confident that Brad and I can do it, though.
I feel like yesterday was a huge success. We are beyond impressed with the surgeon, and we are thrilled to have the surgery scheduled. It will be hard to change the NG tube, and it will be hard to send Caleb into surgery. But these things are necessary for Caleb to get strong and healthy. I look forward to getting past these next several weeks.
Caleb's surgery is scheduled for Friday, February 1st. We will go to Dallas on January 30th, and Caleb will have a full day of pre-op activities on January 31st. We were told to expect a 7-10 day hospital stay. We will need to stay in the Dallas area for an additional 2-4 days after Caleb is released. This time will be to simulate the "out of hospital" experience while still being nearby. We'd hate for a complication to occur on our way home to OKC or after we're home. During this time, we will either stay at a hotel or the Ronald McDonald House.
Caleb has been in a bit of a "feeding slump" for the last week or so. This is because his lung pressures are changing, which we know is to be expected and is somewhat of a good thing. The medication he started last week is helping, but we want to do everything we can to make sure Caleb is as strong as possible before surgery. We've decided to admit him to Children's Hospital in OKC on Thursday morning. He will stay in the hospital for 2-4 days, while he is given extra calories through a NG tube. We'll continue feeding him with bottles, but we'll give him additional milk/formula through the tube. Brad and I will learn how to change the tube, so that we can continue using it at home until Caleb's surgery. I'm not so excited about having to change the tube and have been making a mental list of all the PAs and nurses I know who I could possibly recruit for that task! The cardiology PA said she is confident that Brad and I can do it, though.
I feel like yesterday was a huge success. We are beyond impressed with the surgeon, and we are thrilled to have the surgery scheduled. It will be hard to change the NG tube, and it will be hard to send Caleb into surgery. But these things are necessary for Caleb to get strong and healthy. I look forward to getting past these next several weeks.
Sunday, January 6, 2013
Heart update
Caleb's primary health issue/concern right now is his heart. The PDA closed while he was in the NICU, but he still needs to have surgery for his complete AV canal. He's had several EKGs and echocardiograms over the last few weeks, and Caleb is examined by a cardiologist or cardiology PA every 2-3 weeks. About a week ago, he developed what sounded like a bad chest cough. After a house-call from a PA friend, a trip to a pediatric after-hours clinic, and negative flu and RSV tests, we finally figured out that too much blood was getting to his lungs and his heart wasn't working effectively. It's so hard for his little heart to pump blood properly, when the chambers of his heart aren't separated like they should be. He is now on two medications. One helps to clear fluid from his lungs, and the other helps his heart contract. The medications seem to be helping. His cough sounds better, and he's starting to eat a little more. We knew there was a possibility that this would happen around 8-12 weeks, so it wasn't a big surprise to us.
Tomorrow (Jan 7th), we are going to Dallas to meet with the cardiothoracic surgeon and tour the hospital. We still don't have a surgery date yet, but this step makes us feel like we're getting closer.
Tomorrow (Jan 7th), we are going to Dallas to meet with the cardiothoracic surgeon and tour the hospital. We still don't have a surgery date yet, but this step makes us feel like we're getting closer.
Thursday, January 3, 2013
All that tummy time is paying off!
One of the many things we've learned in the two months since Caleb's birth is that children with Down syndrome tend to have hypotonia (low muscle tone). While Caleb was in the NICU, an occupational therapist showed us several exercise to do with Caleb to strength his muscles. We spend a good amount of time each day stimulating the muscles in Caleb's arms and legs with techniques similar to massage. We also do lots of "tummy time" to strengthen his back and neck. Our goal in doing this is so that Caleb will get stronger and will reach developmental milestones as close to "typical" as possible. We know, and accept, that some things will happen for Caleb later than for some of his/our friends, but we want to give him every opportunity to keep up.
Caleb's Gigi and Papa (Brad's parents) were babysitting on New Years Eve, so that Brad and I could go to dinner and an OKC Thunder game. While at dinner, we received a text from Brad's mom telling us that Caleb rolled over. We didn't believe her. Caleb is two months old, and babies with Down syndrome don't roll over for a while after "typical" children. We told her that we needed video evidence. Caleb didn't cooperate with her, but he decided to show me for himself the next day. He rolled over once, so I grabbed my phone in case he did it again... and he did! He has rolled over at least once every day since then! I wasn't expecting him to roll from front to back until 4-5 months. I'm so proud of my little man!
Jan 1, 2013
Jan 3, 2013
Caleb's Gigi and Papa (Brad's parents) were babysitting on New Years Eve, so that Brad and I could go to dinner and an OKC Thunder game. While at dinner, we received a text from Brad's mom telling us that Caleb rolled over. We didn't believe her. Caleb is two months old, and babies with Down syndrome don't roll over for a while after "typical" children. We told her that we needed video evidence. Caleb didn't cooperate with her, but he decided to show me for himself the next day. He rolled over once, so I grabbed my phone in case he did it again... and he did! He has rolled over at least once every day since then! I wasn't expecting him to roll from front to back until 4-5 months. I'm so proud of my little man!
Jan 1, 2013
Jan 3, 2013
Wednesday, January 2, 2013
The NICU
Caleb was in the NICU for ten days, and those ten days were tough. While we weren't being awakened during the night by our crying baby, we would wake up wondering how he was doing. Rather than checking on him in the bassinet next to our bed, we had to call the hospital, give the receptionist our four-digit security code, and then wait for our call to be transferred to Caleb's nurse. We spent the majority of our awake hours by his side. We usually arrived between 8:00 and 9:00am. Our days were spent feeding and changing Caleb, talking with the nurses, and waiting for the doctors to make rounds. Family and friends often brought us lunch, and we would usually leave the hospital to eat dinner at one of the many nearby restaurants. We returned to the hospital in the evenings to feed and change Caleb, read a bedtime Bible story, and pray. "Lather, rinse, repeat"... for ten days.
October 27th was hard for me. That was Caleb's first full day at the NICU and the day I was discharged. I was so glad that I was able to be discharged from my hospital that day, so that I could spend time with Caleb. But after sitting by Caleb's bed in an uncomfortable chair, going out to eat, walking through the hospital and parking lot, and still processing a lot of difficult news, I told Brad "there's a reason new moms stay in the hospital for 2-3 days after having a baby." I was exhausted, but I wouldn't have done that day any differently. I couldn't not spend every possible minute with my little man. A mom's gotta do what a mom's gotta do.
Another difficult time was toward the end of Caleb's NICU stay. On November 3rd, he was circumcised, had his first hepatitis B vaccine, and did a car seat study. By that evening, he was completely worn out. He didn't finish a bottle, so the nurse had to put his feeding tube back in. Caleb screamed, I cried, and Brad did his best to keep it together for us. Caleb had to take a full day of bottles before he could go home, and that feeding tube going back in felt like such a setback. I was so mad at the doctors and nurses for doing the circumcision, vaccination, and car seat study in one day. Honestly, the nurse we had that day couldn't do anything right in my eyes. She rubbed me wrong the first time she was Caleb's nurse, and I probably never gave the girl a fair chance. I was a frazzled new mom who just wanted my baby home. She and that stupid feeding tube were standing in my way.
Speaking of nurses, Caleb did have several wonderful nurses during his stay. Our favorite was a sweet lady who cared for Caleb his first four days. She and Brad's parents knew each other from years before, and we felt like she really went the extra mile for our family. One of my favorite memories was on October 30th. She wasn't working the next day but really wanted to see the babies in her "pod" dressed for Halloween, so we did Halloween a day early. She encouraged the parents to get costumes for the babies and even told us that Build-A-Bear was a great place to find costumes for our little kiddos. Brad and I had made a playful bet on the 2012 OU-Tech football game a couple weeks before, and the winner got to choose Caleb's first Halloween costume. OU won the game, so Brad got to pick. How appropriate that Build-A-Bear had an OU football uniform.
During those days, we felt such an outpouring of love and support from friends, family, and our church. We had so many more offers for meals and visits than we could accommodate, and we appreciated that some people were willing to postpone those meal offers until after we got Caleb home... I think I've only cooked one meal in the last 2.5 months!
Caleb received excellent care from the doctors, PAs, and nurses. His PDA closed during his NICU stay. Caleb did not pass his state-issued hearing screening, so we scheduled an appointment with an audiologist for after he was released. We also scheduled an appointment with the cardiologist who had been reading Caleb's EKGs and echos during his hospital stay. My job as Caleb's personal assistant was just beginning!
October 27th was hard for me. That was Caleb's first full day at the NICU and the day I was discharged. I was so glad that I was able to be discharged from my hospital that day, so that I could spend time with Caleb. But after sitting by Caleb's bed in an uncomfortable chair, going out to eat, walking through the hospital and parking lot, and still processing a lot of difficult news, I told Brad "there's a reason new moms stay in the hospital for 2-3 days after having a baby." I was exhausted, but I wouldn't have done that day any differently. I couldn't not spend every possible minute with my little man. A mom's gotta do what a mom's gotta do.
Another difficult time was toward the end of Caleb's NICU stay. On November 3rd, he was circumcised, had his first hepatitis B vaccine, and did a car seat study. By that evening, he was completely worn out. He didn't finish a bottle, so the nurse had to put his feeding tube back in. Caleb screamed, I cried, and Brad did his best to keep it together for us. Caleb had to take a full day of bottles before he could go home, and that feeding tube going back in felt like such a setback. I was so mad at the doctors and nurses for doing the circumcision, vaccination, and car seat study in one day. Honestly, the nurse we had that day couldn't do anything right in my eyes. She rubbed me wrong the first time she was Caleb's nurse, and I probably never gave the girl a fair chance. I was a frazzled new mom who just wanted my baby home. She and that stupid feeding tube were standing in my way.
Speaking of nurses, Caleb did have several wonderful nurses during his stay. Our favorite was a sweet lady who cared for Caleb his first four days. She and Brad's parents knew each other from years before, and we felt like she really went the extra mile for our family. One of my favorite memories was on October 30th. She wasn't working the next day but really wanted to see the babies in her "pod" dressed for Halloween, so we did Halloween a day early. She encouraged the parents to get costumes for the babies and even told us that Build-A-Bear was a great place to find costumes for our little kiddos. Brad and I had made a playful bet on the 2012 OU-Tech football game a couple weeks before, and the winner got to choose Caleb's first Halloween costume. OU won the game, so Brad got to pick. How appropriate that Build-A-Bear had an OU football uniform.
During those days, we felt such an outpouring of love and support from friends, family, and our church. We had so many more offers for meals and visits than we could accommodate, and we appreciated that some people were willing to postpone those meal offers until after we got Caleb home... I think I've only cooked one meal in the last 2.5 months!
Caleb received excellent care from the doctors, PAs, and nurses. His PDA closed during his NICU stay. Caleb did not pass his state-issued hearing screening, so we scheduled an appointment with an audiologist for after he was released. We also scheduled an appointment with the cardiologist who had been reading Caleb's EKGs and echos during his hospital stay. My job as Caleb's personal assistant was just beginning!
Tuesday, January 1, 2013
Caleb's birth day
We arrived at the hospital at 7:30am on Friday, October 26th. After the Pitocin was started and my water was broken, I spent time visiting with family while the contractions strengthened. By about noon, I was ready for the epidural. And by 1:30, it was time to push! The nurse noticed that Caleb's heart rate was dropping, so she decided that I should stop pushing until the doctor came back to the room. Once the doctor returned, it only took a couple more good pushes. Caleb Drew was born at 2:20pm. He weighed 6lbs, 13 oz and was 19.5" long.
Brad and I had some time to hold Caleb and bond with him before he was taken to the nursery. A while later, a neonatologist came to our room. He had examined Caleb and told us about several things he had observed that made him "suspicious of Down Syndrome" and tests would be done to confirm the diagnosis. Over the course of the next few hours, we tried our best to begin processing the news. Caleb spent much of that time in the nursery having additional tests done. Later that evening, another neonatologist came to talk to us. He, too, was suspicious of Down Syndrome and told us about a couple other issues that had bern discovered. Caleb had a patent ductus arteriosus (PDA) and a complete AV canal. See the links below, if you'd like to learn more.
Patent Ductus Arteriosus
http://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/health-topics/topics/pda/
Atrioventricular Canal
http://www.cincinnatichildrens.org/health/a/avsd/
We were told that he would need surgery in 3-6 months to repair the AV canal. And as for that day, Caleb needed to be taken to the NICU at a nearby hospital. Brad and I were able to go into the nursery and hold Caleb for a few minutes before he was transported. Shortly before 11:00pm, Brad and Caleb went to the other hospital. My mom stayed with me, and Brad came back to be with us at about 1:00am. I tried to get some sleep, but I spent most of the night thanking God for blessing us with our son, praying for Caleb's health, and also grieving the "loss" of what we expected that day and our future to look like.
The following day, I told a good friend that Caleb's birth day was both the best and worst day of my life. I'm now two months removed from that day, and I don't know if I still feel that the day carries those two extremes. It's still very difficult and emotional to think about the details of the day (many of which I journaled about but am choosing not to share publicly), but I hope and pray that it will continue to get easier. I want every future October 26th to be filled with celebration, and I'm sure my precious little man will make sure of that.
Brad and I had some time to hold Caleb and bond with him before he was taken to the nursery. A while later, a neonatologist came to our room. He had examined Caleb and told us about several things he had observed that made him "suspicious of Down Syndrome" and tests would be done to confirm the diagnosis. Over the course of the next few hours, we tried our best to begin processing the news. Caleb spent much of that time in the nursery having additional tests done. Later that evening, another neonatologist came to talk to us. He, too, was suspicious of Down Syndrome and told us about a couple other issues that had bern discovered. Caleb had a patent ductus arteriosus (PDA) and a complete AV canal. See the links below, if you'd like to learn more.
Patent Ductus Arteriosus
http://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/health-topics/topics/pda/
Atrioventricular Canal
http://www.cincinnatichildrens.org/health/a/avsd/
We were told that he would need surgery in 3-6 months to repair the AV canal. And as for that day, Caleb needed to be taken to the NICU at a nearby hospital. Brad and I were able to go into the nursery and hold Caleb for a few minutes before he was transported. Shortly before 11:00pm, Brad and Caleb went to the other hospital. My mom stayed with me, and Brad came back to be with us at about 1:00am. I tried to get some sleep, but I spent most of the night thanking God for blessing us with our son, praying for Caleb's health, and also grieving the "loss" of what we expected that day and our future to look like.
The following day, I told a good friend that Caleb's birth day was both the best and worst day of my life. I'm now two months removed from that day, and I don't know if I still feel that the day carries those two extremes. It's still very difficult and emotional to think about the details of the day (many of which I journaled about but am choosing not to share publicly), but I hope and pray that it will continue to get easier. I want every future October 26th to be filled with celebration, and I'm sure my precious little man will make sure of that.
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